Have you ever been in a relationship where you were given so much less than what you were giving? A relationship where you never knew your position? A relationship where there was always confusion and distrust between you and the person that there should never be distrust with? A relationship where you had to end it and part ways with someone you cared about very much?
Well I have, and if you haven’t you are VERY fortunate. One of the things about a failed relationship that is uplifting is that time heals everything (The most cliché, yet true, statement ever) and new relationships can be formed. Well, I can say that happened to me.
I truly believe that I am in love. I can’t even believe I’m writing this article because I like to keep new things private and because I hate being emotional on my blog (lol) but I really am in love. At first I was a bit skeptical because I didn’t want to feel as if I was only having these feelings because I wasn’t used to having a partner that treated me so well (especially in the last 4+ years), and I didn’t want it to be like the rebound syndrome. I’m sure that there is a name for the rebound syndrome, maybe the actual name is rebound syndrome, but to me rebound syndrome is when you leave a bad relationship and enter a good one and you’re not really in love, you’re just in love with the feeling of being treated well and not the person.
I can truly testify to the fact that rebound syndrome is extremely scary and thinking you’re in it can be even more scary, so when I finally moved past that fear it was a big relief. I’ll let you all into my life a bit and give you one reason on how I knew that C was more than a rebound for me.
Okay, so he is very much into his fraternity as pretty much all greeks are. So one weekend for about 3 days he went to a conference for greeks and I could barely speak to him. For about 3 days, I BARELY got a chance to speak to him and probably spoke to him twice a day – but one thing I noticed was that when he wasn’t strolling or in conferences, he was talking to me when he could. I remember one night he was walking back to his hotel room and he called me and after 15 minutes I noticed how he was still talking to me. So I asked him if he had found his room yet and he said he had already found his room but decided to go sit in the lobby because he wanted to talk to me instead. He literally sat in the lobby of a hotel in a city he had never been to before, and talked to me on the phone for an hour and a half. After that it was no longer a question of my love for him or his love for me, I just knew.
I’m watching The Real Housewives of Atlanta right now on Hulu trying to catch up on 8 seasons (yikes! I know) and the lyrics to Kandi Burruss’s song I Just Know really resonated with me. One of the lyrics to the song stated “You are the man that I was born to love, you are the one I can’t get enough of… I just know, cause I can feel it in my soul… People talk about how our love began, but it’s not for them to understand, I just know.”
I’m going to link the YouTube video of her song , tell me if you all enjoy the song as much as I do! Have you all ever just knew that after a bad relationship, the person in your new relationship was the one for you? If so, tell me about it in the comment section below!
*quick side note: why do I sound so girly lol. This article was written in April 2016